Babyproofing Your Marriage

1.  Maintain open, honest communication; don’t presume your spouse knows how you feel - talk about it!

2.  You both bring your individual histories to parenting and it is important to recognize that your way is not the only way.

3.  You are a parenting team - remember to act like a team!!

4.  Having a baby will change the intimacy in the relationship but this does NOT mean that the baby is “competing with you!”

5.  Make it a priority to have some time alone together each week to prioritize your relationship.

6.  Remember that your baby is a baby for a very short time over the entirety of your marriage. Enjoy this time.

7.  Try to be as flexible as you can be!  Sleep schedules, meal times, even time to take a shower may shift around for a while. Hang in there. Your baby is well worth it.

My husband and I are learning to be more intentional about our relationship and to be more flexible about chores, sleep schedules and errands. Individually, he is learning to cut me a break when I need one and I’m learning to tell him when I need one, in a way that doesn’t involve huffing or yelling. That’s the key.

Our daughter is definitely pushing us to our limits, but she is also helping us come together and love one another in ways we didn’t even know where possible. Watching my husband as a father has taught me to love him in new ways, even if he still doesn’t like wiping the counter.

About the Author:
Lyz Lenz is a writer, a mom and a midwesterner. Although, not in that order. She lives in Iowa and on the web at