By providing a peaceful environment in which you and your baby can bond before it’s born, Luminare-Rosen says, your baby gets the message that it’s wanted and loved. She suggests communicating those feelings of love by taking some time every day and sitting quietly, with your eyes closed, and telling your baby how welcome it is in your life.
“Even if you’re only bonding to a concept at that point, and not the baby itself, you’re establishing a connection that will continue after the baby is born,” says Luminare-Rosen. “You’re expressing your love.”
When Luminare-Rosen was pregnant with her daughter, she kept a journal that not only documented her pregnancy, but also included letters to her daughter telling her about her hopes and her fears. “I read the journal to her now so that she knows how loved she has been, from the very beginning,” says Luminare-Rosen.
In the prenatal bonding classes that Luminare-Rosen holds, she will play relaxing music, then have the parents (mostly moms-to-be) imagine that they are meeting their child for the first time. “Visualize your child,” she suggest. “What is the image you have of the child?”
Luminare-Rosen says that you may see a picture of your child in your mind, you may hear a conversation between you and the baby. “Draw a picture of what you have seen, or write it in your journal,” she says. “This will make the visualization that much more conscious.”
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