Your Toddler and Competitive Sports

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By Jeanine Stein
The Los Angeles Times

In the center of a field of fake grass, about a dozen 3- and 4-year-olds are attempting to learn soccer — or a reasonable facsimile. Kicking and chasing after scaled-down balls, some charge ahead with glee, expertly guid-ing the balls with their feet. Others scoot along hesitantly, their faces masks of intensity. “Score it in the goal! Score it in the goal!” the coach yells excitedly nearby.

One boy nails the goal with a single kick, while another takes three to four attempts. A little girl in pigtails scoops up one ball with her arms and simply drops it into the net. Such is organized sports for preschoolers. Parents may be crazy for it, but childhood development experts … less so. No longer content to wait until their children are 5 or, heaven forbid, 8 (the age most kids start in orga- nized sports leagues), moms and dads are enrolling their offspring in structured programs at the age of 3 and 4.

The Lil Kickers soccer program at the Upland Indoor Sports Arena in Upland, where the extremely young soccer players were roaming, even has a class for 18-month-olds. Such preschool-focused programs — including ones for basketball and T-ball — teach specific skills, general motor development and sometimes concepts such as teamwork — not always an easy lesson for a population whose conversations can consist largely of the word, “Mine!” Coed classes can be found in parks and recreation programs and private sports organizations across the nation and, coordinators say, enrollment numbers are growing every year. Many programs even have waiting lists.

Not all children are ready

The environment is mostly noncompetitive (no one wants to tell a 3-year-old she cost the game), but the fact that organized sports have infiltrated toddlerhood doesn’t sit well with many exercise and child development experts. Graduating to training pants, they say, doesn’t nec- essarily signal a readiness for structured programs with equipment and rules and expectations of victory or failure. Of course physical activity trumps sitting around watching TV, says Michael Bergeron, exercise physiologist and assistant professor at the Medical College of Georgia in Augusta.

But, he says, sports lessons might not be the best alternative. “It might seem innocent to say, ‘Come on, catch this, run harder,’ but they may be trying to get kids to do things they’re not capable of doing, and that leads to frustration and anxiety,” says Bergeron, who’s also chairman of the American College of Sports Medicine’s Youth Sports and Health Initia- tive. “Kids who are further along developmentally look better than those who are not, and kids can start feeling resentment.”

Even having parents on the sidelines watching can put undue pressure on very young children, says Bergeron: “Believe me, a kid knows people are watching him miss the ball. It’s different in the back yard — you have dad kicking the ball, acting just as goofy as the kid. Structure is pressure, and it leads to frustration if a child isn’t ready for that.” Much of what kids need to learn can be found during free play, says Bergeron — running around a playground, exploring the back yard and playing with age-appropriate equipment and toys. When play becomes beset by rules, i.e. don’t pick up a soccer ball, don’t kick a basketball, kids can lose their natural enthusiasm and willingness to try new things. “What is their attention span?” he says. “Are you asking them to listen and understand beyond what they’re capable of doing?”


Some parents push for structure, skills development Crystal Branta, associate professor of kinesiology at Michigan State University, says preschool level is prime time for learning and developing motor skills such as throwing, catching, jumping and running, “But that doesn’t mean,” she adds, “doing drill after drill.” Among today’s adults, however, many want structure. After all, if they didn’t care about specific skills, they could just turn kids loose in the park. For them, structured sports gives their kids the chance to socialize with other kids, and get a leg up on skills seen as increasingly valuable. “I think par- ents understand that in school, kids are popular and valuable when they’re able to do sports,” she says.

Classes for 3-year-olds are easily found via local parks and recreation programs, as well as through some private programs and facilities. The American Youth Soccer Organization, a nationwide nonprofit group that sponsors soccer programs, knocked its starting age down to 4 years old from 5 years old in 2004. National executive director Rick Davis thinks 4-year-olds have the mental and physical capabilities to begin to learn soccer skills. And it’s not really soccer at that age anyway, he insists. “We’re introducing them to the sport in fun ways, from simple motor coordination things like walking around the ball to kicking and shooting and passing. If you were a soccer coach, you wouldn’t be sure you were seeing a soccer practice.”

Yet AYSO’s Under-Five program has an entire page of rules and guidelines on its Web site for three-on- three games, where it says, “The two goals of the pro- gram are to allow the players to enjoy the activities and to let the game be the teacher.” Headings include, “The Start of Play,” “The Kick-off,” “Ball In and Out of Play” and “Fouls and Other Stoppages.” Part of the decision to start kids at age 4, says Davis, came from parent demand.


But business also factored into the decision. “A number of other programs were reaching down to kids younger and younger, with other activities, and we felt that we were not providing a similar soccer experience,” he says. “If these kids go to basketball and have a wonderful time, they may never decide to give soccer a try.”

Greg Payne, a professor of kinesiology at San Jose State University, adds that sports for 3- and 4-year- olds shouldn’t include competition or pressure. But that’s not always easy for overly eager parents. More intense competition for placement on school teams is pushing them to enroll their kids younger, and more often, which can lead to burnout.

“You’re seeing very young kids doing sports at an early age, and it’s intense, year-round with very little breaks,” says Payne, also a spokesman for the California Association for Health, Physical Education, Recreation and Dance. “Even seasonally, I see parents pushing way harder than the child can tolerate.” Most parents maintain that they want their kids to have fun and get some exercise, not start thinking about the major leagues.

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